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Masculinity & Cross-Stitching - Though I learned to sew from my grandfather, it is interesting to read other people's experiences in examining their lifelong conditioning.

Hyperfixation - coping mechanism?

Blue Rabbit Urine - it's the buckthorn bark they eat

trauma triggers
"i think i'm going grey"
I am trying to reading through these articles, the one on Vanity Fair by Lewinsky and also
this piece on Vox.
"A low-grade collective trauma" is about as accurate a phrase as any.
To describe Monica, as she continues to inflict herself on us.
To describe the Clintons, particularly Bill.
To describe 1998, all of it.

In the age of MeToo, how do we talk about sexual violence against men?

Angry Cold
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Last one... (they're just so funny!)
Celebs Sound Off on Weather

& okay The Onion also.

Get Off My Lawn
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YES - it is cold in Minnesota.
But you know what?! I live for this weather.

How To Be Cold

Ooh, another...
WaPo Wants MN Mad?

"i think i'm going grey"
Grammys So Male

Eradicate Sex Segregatiuon in Sports
Aussie Lawyer for Rani Laxmibai / Queen of Jhansi

Undocumented Feature - online friends

Snow Day
"i think i'm going grey"
This IS the snowstorm I've been waiting for.
It is beautiful.

Currently circulating the birdfeeder tree are five juncos, two cardinals, and three bluejays. In the bush by the window is a rabbit, a half-dozen more juncos, and some sparrows.

Winter MSP - come for the culture! stay because all flights are cancelled.

No one got you that oscilloscope for Christmas?
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Trying to "Zero" my inboxes... it is an annual chore, apparently? Last year, I seem to have made it to the middle of February & then just let it pile up for months. Which is kinda how I deal with everything! It's... bad. But, for the moment there are fewer than a thousand eMails total across my accounts.

Spring 2018 - the early forecast on colour trends looks like I'll be saving plenty of money on not buying anything for a good while, because ew?

midlife crisis...?
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Adrift, or lamentable listless, or just weepy menstrual.
It's... whatever.
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PURGINATION ...and cinnamon rolls...?

you are an S-tier based god at finding the perfect stickers for everything
I was thinking not long ago that when FB introduced "stickers" I ceased needing human words.
Human speech gone super-saiyan!

Beyond the Border
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Important conversations ARE happening.

- 5 Tips For Preventing Sexual Harassment We Apparently Need - "Sometimes all we really want is for the guy to apologize, smarten up, and knock it the hell off."
- My Friend Has A Case of the Creepy Dude - how do we clear that up?

To Men

      Meanwhile, the coping mechanism that many people turn to, unfortunately - we always need someone to look down upon, and the most popular target this week seems to be the disabled and the "differently abled".

"Hey guy with hydration pack, 2 hiking sticks & North Face vest; my 5 yr old walked the same trail in Crocs carrying a naked Barbie. Relax." - Jack Boot
      Ehh.... I would normally scroll on past ableist garbage like this, but I just fractured an ankle bone this morning again not doing anything so adventurous, so I am going to say it's bullshit to tell anyone they might be overdoing preparations or equipment, especially with the kicker "my kid can do it better than you".
Some of us are built differently.

Beyond the Border

Me Too
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If all the people who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote "me too" as a status... we might get a sense of the magnitude of the problem.
Stop the silence. Stop the violence.

Stop It Now

      “I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you guys take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? At first there is a kind of awkward silence as the men try to figure out if they've been asked a trick question. The silence gives way to a smattering of nervous laughter. Occasionally, a young a guy will raise his hand and say, 'I stay out of prison.' This is typically followed by another moment of laughter, before someone finally raises his hand and soberly states, 'Nothing. I don't think about it.'
      Then I ask women the same question. What steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? Women throughout the audience immediately start raising their hands. As the men sit in stunned silence, the women recount safety precautions they take as part of their daily routine. Here are some of their answers: Hold my keys as a potential weapon. Look in the back seat of the car before getting in. Carry a cell phone. Don't go jogging at night. Lock all the windows when I sleep, even on hot summer nights. Be careful not to drink too much. Don't put my drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured. Own a big dog. Carry Mace or pepper spray. Have an unlisted phone number. Have a man's voice on my answering machine. Park in well-lit areas. Don't use parking garages. Don't get on elevators with only one man, or with a group of men. Vary my route home from work. Watch what I wear. Don't use highway rest areas. Use a home alarm system. Don't wear headphones when jogging. Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime. Don't take a first-floor apartment. Go out in groups. Own a firearm. Meet men on first dates in public places. Make sure to have a car or cab fare. Don't make eye contact with men on the street. Make assertive eye contact with men on the street".
      ― Jackson Katz, The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help

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Me Too - History

Love Is Respect


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